tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8137857716187567509.post2421783459145941263..comments2024-01-18T02:47:12.669-08:00Comments on Tregear Vean: I can not say no. Revjeanrolthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12744131101249601856noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8137857716187567509.post-56176885049932211282013-08-22T09:22:58.651-07:002013-08-22T09:22:58.651-07:00Saying NO can be quite hard. But an element of sel...Saying NO can be quite hard. But an element of self protection is needed or before you know where you are, you are overwhelmed by others stuff. <br /><br />I've learned the hard way and now say a firm, but tactful NO to things that I know I can't do without having to sacrifice some family time - and I keep to those boundaries, no matter what.<br /><br />Hard on others, but you sometimes have to be selfish to help them.UKViewerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18114944341930758335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8137857716187567509.post-39496911981675391682013-08-22T04:29:25.853-07:002013-08-22T04:29:25.853-07:00Since "NO", seems to be the first, and i...Since "NO", seems to be the first, and in some cases the only word toddlers learn, it must be some time later that the rot sets in.<br />In my time among many other sorts of training I have had 'assertiveness' training. This aims to let your real self emerge from the polite mask which many of us assume throughout our long lives.<br />It is a problem for many of us to be able to say 'no' firmly, politely and without giving offense.<br />Just try asking yourself if you really want to do what is asked of you, if the answer is maybe, or, only if I have time, say "sorry I'd love to help but I really can't this time".<br />Or just say "yes".<br />Helpful little soul ain't I?Ray Barneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09209429097744326143noreply@blogger.com