tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8137857716187567509.post7762697922782302409..comments2024-01-18T02:47:12.669-08:00Comments on Tregear Vean: Ghosts or wishful thinking? Revjeanrolthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12744131101249601856noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8137857716187567509.post-30574677336865675502014-05-09T00:00:00.425-07:002014-05-09T00:00:00.425-07:00I think that it's healthy to speak to someone ...I think that it's healthy to speak to someone you've lost. We believe that we will all be together again in a happier place, safe in the arms of Jesus. I believe that while they're dead and gone, their essence stays with us in our minds and hearts. We remember them with love and affection mostly, more problematic if the relationship was fractured before they went and we couldn't make our peace in time.<br /><br />And a good friend of ours, who lost his wife a couple of months ago, she died on the operating table, still speaks to her and off her, lovingly. He is convinced that she can hear him and that he even anticipates her answers, they knew each other so well.<br /><br />I see nothing wrong with this. It's a coping strategy, and I remember the wise words of a widow who spoke to us on a course at the Armed Forces Chaplaincy centre she said "you never get over the pain and grief - you just get used to it" which seemed to me to be apt and appropriate at the time and speaks strongly to me now as many of my friends or former colleagues seem to be dying on and off. Mortality is something that comes to all - it's a shock when it happens, we can't anticipate it, but we can remain believing that it's not the end - but a new beginning.UKViewerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18114944341930758335noreply@blogger.com