In the build up to the next cruise a good friend of mine has lost her mother.
It was news to me that she had a mother...in all the years of conversations a mother had never been mentioned...I drew the conclusion that she had departed this life long before I met her daughter.
In fact as I now know, she was diagnosed with Altzeimers at least fifteen years ago and has been housed in a nursing home needing full time care for over ten years.
The story is so sad . Her family lost her a very long time ago. She has not recognised any of them for years.
I do dimly remember meeting her out with her golden retriever playing with mine when I first arrived in Cornwall .
But she has in every sense been lost to her family for a very long time.
The funeral is the final full stop to her life. They are expecting a congregation of four.
The whole conversation has filled me with horror. That an intelligent person can lose their lives and yet still live is horrifying.
I know that if it happened to me I would take steps to end my own life. The fact that I could ask no help from anyone to assist my transition from life to spirit just makes it worse...
A flight to Switzerland might be needed.....
I'm not as depressed as I sound...but once meaningful life becomes impossible then I think taking ourselves out of it is a good option...
To live for fifteen years cut off from family, friends pets etc is a horrifying thought .
We will send her off with our prayers...her close family and me....
Rest in peace...it is time.
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This isn't uncommon, albeit a 10 years in care is astonishing. My younger sister died earlier this year, having developed Vascular Dementia three years ago,and needed full time care.
We lost her and her family reacted to her death with grief and a degree of spite, having decided that I should not attend as I had not visited recently - forgetting that it was them who told me that they'd stopped visiting as she had not recognised them for some time and that it was too painful for them.
So no funeral for me to attend, and they didn't even give me the time and date to allow me to pray at that time. Fortunately I providentially was in Church for Morning Prayer on the day it happened and had lit a candle to her memory.
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